Couples Therapy
Are you longing for a safe connection with your partner? Are struggling with the same problems over and over again in your relationship? Would you like to know how to communicate successfully and have the close, loving relationship you once had?
Relationships can be our greatest source of happiness in life; a place where we feel loved, seen, and understood. Or, when they’re not going so well, they can be our biggest source of sadness, frustration and even loneliness.
My Approach
I utilize emotionally-focused therapy (EFT) in my work with couples. EFT is based on the notion that when we can’t find a safe, loving way to stay connected to our partner we go into a state of emotional pain and alarm. We respond by protesting or withdrawing (fight or flight) . Our partner will then often respond with his or her own protest or withdrawal. This cycle often creates a feedback loop of negative interactions. EFT is a collaborative and experiential approach that encourages couples to be involved in identifying and deconstructing their negative cycle as well as creating a new, secure relationship.
I help Couples that might be experiencing:
Recycling the same old argument over and over, without ever seeming to advance your mutual understanding or empathy.
Infidelity ( including virtual infidelity), and “emotional cheating”
Broken trust
A loss of connection
Challenges with communication; you’re either not speaking or you only speak negatively to each other.
Dissatisfaction with your sex life and can’t seem to discuss it honestly and openly.
Challenges with major life changes, transitions, or financial matters
Stressful incidents such as the loss of a loved one, or a job
“New beginnings start with knowing how we create the trap that we are caught in, how we have deprived ourselves of the love we need. Strong bonds grow from resolving to halt the cycles of disconnection, the dances of distress.”
How Couples Therapy can Help..
Couples learn to identify their negative cycles, and the emotions underlying their reactions
Couples learn to regulate their emotions and send clear, coherent emotional signals of their needs to their partner
Couples are able to validate one another
Couples are able better able to manage conflict and the painful or difficult feelings that will inevitably arise from time to time in a close relationship
Couples begin to actively create a new, positive cycle where they can express their needs and fears to one another
Couples begin to feel close, secure, and responded to by their partner
Couples experience the safety, trust and support that they’ve have been yearning for
The fee for couples therapy is
$215/50-minute session
$250/90-min session
